Xu teacher my first event, I was engaged in business, but not the theory. But I feel this is a good thing, a positive and healthy thing. This age have such a good thing is very rare, we should treasure and cherish. Some experts say that's just the pursuit of happiness is a very difficult thing, that good. If is not difficult, we also need not be so hard in pursuit of the. Years of our family, Our family is now enjoying a decade for the
I talk about my first for the
I agree change the name of I think the first part should be added to the health. In addition to physical, emotional and spiritual, we also need a healthy, this should be listed separately. Health, emotional, spiritual, material, four were indispensable.
This is not absolute, should be changed to
possession of material consumption and did not bring a corresponding increase in happiness, for some people and some countries, this is not for everyone.
Some fear the words as little as possible, focusing on moral guidance, not in intimidation.
I agreed to sign and agree to spread.
Second, I share with you our family years About a decade ago, my wife and I one day came home from work exhausted, walking two of us discuss whether alive why? Every day, work, work, children, the elderly, there are countless things that people a better life is like this? Although not discussed at that time know, but we want to change. My wife said, that so be it, let's make a plan, from a name, called
out this plan, we began the pursuit of happiness. Then gradually discovered that in fact life itself is painful, so it needs to pursue happiness, if life is happy every day, that we pursue? There are two kinds of people pleasure without pain, a person is dead, one is a part of a mental hospital, he is no pain, very happy.
this decade, our family through family education programs, from the body, diet, lifestyle, communication between the family members have done a lot of try. The first method I use is not at fault apologize. Mother-in to our house to help care for their children, the elderly one day suddenly found tears, and I say it is how ah? I asked: Why are you sad mother? Crying ah? Is where we mess with your set? She said: no. Old people said no, not necessarily no. Why not if you ask the elderly, she can immediately tell you, that is first-class families. Now this is our home, but at the time yet. I sat there, talk slowly, asked many times, the last mother wiping away tears, said, often do not want me to throw this at home, throw some of that. I am a northerner, what a happy thing to shoot it - What happy things to go out, put the door Yishuai, I feel very cool. But the elderly do not think so. So listen to her first reaction wrong me feel old, I work every day, so busy, you still think I am, especially aggrieved.
a bit aggrieved at the time, however, the second reaction is I would like to explain the elderly, not the case. Then I thought, do not and the elderly to reason, reasonable approach is to invest the kind of long, slow effect, Zenmeyangzuo fast ah? Admit mistakes. So when I say: Coax the old man happy, and we do things to smooth out the. Sorry, I said you are a laugh, Mom! All apologies, I Zhicuojiugai, I repeat, then the next time you scolded me, saying she put the elderly joking.
reason with the elderly, when we talk about winning, it is the time when we lose - if you say win, put her Liquciqiong, she would say, you are right, all my fault I'll leave your home. So to invest in the elderly, emotions you can invest.
emotional investment to the elderly, I said one day, and the elderly, we can try without MSG ah? Because there is no MSG in itself in addition to tasty nutrition. Mother said that MSG can eat them hold it? I said: . Ten days passed, I said your mom about it remember? Mother asked: Decade we have never used MSG, MSG should not say to a restaurant, do not lard, put half the salt.
our family from my own happiness project is started. I had 80 a few kilograms, hyperlipidemia, fatty liver, high cholesterol, I spent three years, the fatty liver cure his weight has dropped to about 70 kilograms.
In addition, the small home after doing a good job, but also extended to everyone, everyone including the elderly, brother, sister, brother, sister, sister, brother in law, etc., we are not them alone, but affect them. Let me give an example, my brother 15 years older than me, they live in the Northeast, the Northeast eat things that are terrible, son kidney, pig intestine, Zhu Tourou and so on. I have to go back to Costa Rica New Year a year out of a list, I said Brother, do not eat these things,UGG shoes, these things well. My brother a frown: If I do not eat these things, I'm still alive do ah? When a person think to eat, to enjoy an important position in the accounts of his life, when people can not be required to do. My wife and I discussed, I have to help Costa Rica to find something more important than eating, these things what is it? Later we found it. After each New Year
brother and I say: I recently in the exercise, the body much better than before, and I do so, I hope you do brother happy, you do want to make sure his brother's brother's body good . My wife said: I recently found a job, better than the original. Brother: you almost on the line Well, how can they pursue ah? My wife said: accounting for the county want to do that, get this through your brother was proud, proud. We continue to pass this idea over the past two years, after about 04 years ago and then suddenly one day, brother gave me a call, he took me to the forefront of those things are smoking, eating less salt, less fat, eat fat has very little meat, and eat more red meat and fish has. I talked to him, then you is not no fun living it? Brother smiled and said: Happy!
So ten years is a very cost-effective investment, and now I rate the father to our family, spiritual and emotional aspects in playing 90 minutes. We have a General
: the pursuit of all family members, the sum total of the maximization of happiness together. Refers to the sum of everyone together, the cumulative total that is at the time, that today we do not care about the joy of light, but also concerned about the future of happiness every day, do not wait ten years and then we had a successful career to caring for your family, go to the child care, care for the elderly, should start now to maximize the sum total of happiness.
has the advantage of maximizing the sum of happiness is that my wife will not let me out shopping with her! Why is that? Because I do not love shopping, in the past, then a yell, I have to accompany, to go along with teeth. Now she offered to come, if you do not want to stay, then you can not accompany me, I said, do not you sad? He said you happy I will be happy. Once she went to the hospital for a minor operation, and of course I should send her to, but his wife told me, you do not get. I said that no, how can you go to the hospital do not send it? She said that really do not give, you take this time to walk, I took a taxi to the hospital. I think you walk in to contribute to our family. In this case, two people are happy, will achieve maximum happiness.
corporate culture, the family also literate. Such as the treatment of elderly people, some people say I'm busy, so I work well, then after the good economic conditions, access to the elderly. Our family has a slogan, as if about to leave the elderly to treat them as we do, there are two things: First, a little better as early as their parents; The other is to pay close attention to use every day, so that the elderly happy. Early care, he earlier happy, he happy, to live for a period of time! Do we do this, the elderly maximize happiness, and our own happy, of course, we could hard point. If one day leave our elderly, and we do not like doing nothing, like grief, sadness for many years. We have done to do, no regrets, a lot of people suffering from not prepared, did not do anything. So treat the elderly, to leave us as soon as the elderly to treat him, so happy to meet the maximum.
happy our family is divided into four areas: health indicators, mental index, wealth index, sentiment index, every 100 points, the total score is -400-- +400. Our family all the big decisions, such as living in the city, looking for what kind of job, housing, or live in an apartment house, travel should be back, whether to go home for dinner, etc., are all around to maximize the sum of the four indices to make .
we derived in accordance with General Rule 20, and then produced a series of methods, we use these methods, significant improvement in the quality of life of the family. We ourselves, families and real life responsibilities.
Xu Jingan:
County is the world accounting for financial institutions, President Angel Investment Alliance, should be the pursuit of wealth maximization, but maximizing the happiness in the family made a lot of thinking and implementation to obtain results. His exploration is very meaningful and valuable. For a person, a family, a business, as well as a region, a country, in the possession of resources or wealth of a period of time is a quantitative, of course, through the efforts, you can get an increment. For example, a person earning 2,000 yuan this year, next year, earning 3,000 yuan, but this year, this 2,000 is quantitative. Then, in the possession of resources or a certain amount of wealth being the case, it was a lot of variables, could be unhappy, it can be more happy, can also be very happy. But today's society has focused on the pursuit of wealth, did not care or ignore the pursuit of happiness, or only their own happiness and well-being, neglect or violation of other people's happiness, their results than those who cause trouble, unhappiness , causing severe distress and tragedy.
He said: The. From the whole society is concerned, there are too many real injustices and grievances, we must strive to change the status quo. I have been called on the government to maximize the happiness of all its members to promote a new round of reform for the goal to replace the development of the first, GDP for the first place. For each individual, but also to change the status quo of injustice and inequality and work, if their rights were violated, they should safeguard their rights. However, at some point, under certain circumstances, the reality is we have to face the situation, or at least temporarily, can not be changed, how do? We can not pursue happiness? Is not complain all day, resentment, BS-ing? County accounted for the practice of that concept through the adjustment of family members, to achieve maximum happiness. Some people will say, how can I with him than, people are president, everything, of course, you can maximize happiness. For those who do not solve the problem of existence, survival is the first solution, but the majority of the Chinese people, survival issues are resolved, there is a problem of how to live the law, that is, the pursuit of happiness under the existing conditions, the maximum of. But many people say how much I have to talk about how much fun it, the money placed in happiness, happiness above, they may never be happy, even unfortunate.
families accounted for formulating County General Plan is to achieve happiness for all family members, the sum total of the maximization of happiness together. This concept is very good, is not a member of the happy, but all members, including spouses, the elderly, children, brothers, sisters are happy, not temporary joy or happiness in the future, but the time adds up to happiness, that is, for every day, every When happy, this is the treasure life. To this as the highest goal, as the core concept, what the family can not solve the conflict, it really achieve harmony. I am also deeply understands the struggle for the past months old and his wife, yet does not fast, or even to quarrel. Wife, a woman is not unreasonable. I can not accept this argument in any case, people do not unreasonable, say something! So, I will fight this reason, many really quarrel. Then wake up, two people together, happiness is the first, and that argument, if not involving the cardinal, there is no need to fight, in fact, the family number of major, are trivial things, fight for a long time and got a non- happy. There is also a family is the financial power to fight, who control the money, who is in charge. That each have each practice, but the principle of maximizing pleasure to deal with the sum, it will find a good way. Also affect the family happy is that everyone has preferences of every individual, every individual has the strengths of each individual, each individual has the disadvantage of everyone. County accounted for about a woman love shopping, men do not love shopping, many couples have this conflict. They handle better, the key lies in his wife more liberal, open-minded, rational, and this experience is not copying. If your wife is very attached to the shopping, and you rarely see her, can not account for the way the county. In order to maximize happiness, to accompany his wife shopping for good. On the other side are not satisfied, how to deal with is the key. I have a couple of friends, the lady complaining about her husband said in the past I want him to east, he was unmoved, standing still, now I want him to east, he is not standing still, but some west. How is there such a situation? Reprove her husband because she has always been, which pot is not touching the tender spot, the husband said, In fact, they have a happy family at home all the elements, there is room, a car, a boy, a girl, her husband graduated from Tsinghua University, has his own company, or the wife to the husband much money, the house is not, grow fast, but not looked down on her husband's benefits. Complain every day, how can I bear, and makes us unhappy. I said to her, you have to divorce, did not want him, you would like to go on. If not, you have to change, you make him unhappy, you're not happy. Listened to me, she come to realize, the couple relationship has improved.
County accounted for experience tells us that the pursuit of wealth requires planning, strategy, strategies, methods, techniques, the pursuit of happiness is a science and art, wisdom, conscience, kindness, tolerance, chest environment, then with plans, strategies, strategies, methods, techniques, the pursuit of happiness than the pursuit of learning, eclipsing the wealth of knowledge, with previous knowledge, even after almost a scholarship, but also happiness. On the contrary, there is no previous knowledge, even after a better knowledge, not necessarily happy, even unfortunate. However, today's academic, public and government's knowledge of the pursuit of happiness does not attach importance, and some disagree, some dismissive, some scoffed, for the enlightenment propaganda of happiness, which is the purpose and intention of the Declaration.
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